Is there such a thing as the right lifestyle? That’s kind of like saying that there is such a thing as the right truth. A lot of people are under the impression that there’s really no such thing as the truth. The truth is really just a posture or a position. In their minds, you can come up with your own truths because you have your own sets of circumstances, but if you change a small detail of that, it’s anybody’s guess what will come out at the other end.
It may well turn out that somebody with the same set of circumstances would arrive at a different truth. Who’s truth wins out? This really all boils down to power. To put more specifically, proximity to power. The closer you are to decision makers and to influential people or communities, the more powerful you are. Your choices tend to be more pervasive and you tend to reflect more of the “official lifestyle” or super structure of culture in the particular time and space you reside in.
I don’t want to sound like some sort of literary critique or a post structural philosopher, but this is the essence of post modernism. There is no such thing as an absolute truth. There’s no such thing as this moral north star that from people from all over the world, regardless of what they look like, their background, educational attainment and everything else that divides people, could point to as a universal concept.
Depending on who you ask, this is either gospel truth or liberal hogwash. What is beyond dispute is the fact that you have your own conception of what “the right lifestyle” is. Nobody can take that away from you because that choice or the ability to make that choice is intrinsic to personal freedom. I think we can all agree on that.
This is why it’s really important to be clear on what your values are. What do you stand for? What are your priorities? All of these project outwards in terms of seemingly banal everyday choices. For example, your choice of vape juice flavors may be neither here nor there to a lot of people. They think that’s just another empty detail that differentiates people much like their choice of footwear or their choice of color in clothing. But vape juice brands express a chosen lifestyle.
Some people are mac people, others are into IBM or Windows products. It’s neither here nor there. Well, you don’t want to assume that because these seemingly banal choices come from a deeper place. They are all part of an internal superstructure of values and priorities that manifest themselves. This is why the issue is not whether there is a certain right lifestyle out there, but the discussion should be more around are you aware that this is happening. Do you see how this works?
When your awareness of the right lifestyle for you means you take control of your life. You take the bull by the horns. Instead of just being rocked back and forth by some internal force that you can neither identify nor explain, you are in the driver’s seat. You make call after call and you live a life of integrity, comprehension and purpose.
While the truth may be out there and it’s anybody’s guess what it may be. It may be a ____ working power, politics, religion or whatnot. We can all agree that we have the ultimate responsibility to steer the ship of our life. If we hit rocks, it’s on us. If we discover a new continent, that’s on us. Nobody can take credit for that, but nobody can also make you do that.
You have to be aware of this process. You have to understand and open your eyes to the fact that you have this kind of power. That really is the ultimate lifestyle. Right now, people are so wrapped up in different identities and they’re so frustrated because ultimately, they’re trying to live somebody else’s life. They feel that they have to play out a certain script for their life, but when you do that, you’re robbing yourself of the ability to determine what is right for yourself.